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Re: Question about Favors
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- Date: 19 Apr 95 12:21:00 -0400
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To lady Deoca of Elvegast, from Ianthe, greetings.
Please excuse me for replying to your message. The use and obligations
favors were topics dear to me in ages past. Anything I relate here is
Ancient Eastern Usage. I invite more modern gentles to add
how such things have changed.
The gift of a favors implies whatever you wish. By this, I mean that
signify no standard relationship. In particular favors do not
automatically mean the exchange of more initmate "Favors". I have
favors to signify everything from deep and abiding love; warm
to encouragement or inspiration for a new fighter authorizing that day.
Anyone may ask for or give a favor - and anyone may decline the honor
tendered, or the request for one. No reason beyond a warm smile, and
thankfulness for the honor extended need be given.
Favors may be any object, preferably of personal significance to the
giver. They may be elaborately embroidered "dedicated favor objects" -
dishtowl shaped things many people use. In the Ancient Days, other
were more popular gifts than dedicated favor objects. I have seen
exchange sleeves, belts, veils, hair ornaments, ribbons, bodice lacings,
jewelry, a lock of hair, favorite stirring spoon, a spur - in fact all
manner of things. The strip of embroidery Don Fernando wears is a
dedicated object, but has stitched into the lining my original favor to
him - a lock of my hair. His favor to me is the silver horse pin I
wear with my garb.
Favors can be given for any period of time. I have asked lords to
my token for an afternoon; a performance; a battle; a war week; a
season; for an unspecified duration; or (in the case of my lord
The exchange of favors isn't limited to exchange between fighters and
non-fighters. Anyone can give or receive a favor, but they should be
that there are obligations involved.
In the lists, (or at public performance,) the recipient is obligated to
acknowledge the giver (bows and/or Meaningful Glances are nice
the context). The recipient should also realize that their conduct has
direct reflection on the giver. Dishonorable acts or speech taint both.
Recipients should strive to be the models of gentility, and so render
to the giver.
In their turn, the giver is obligated to the recipient. Their conduct
reflects on those they gifted. If someone in the lists or performing
wearing a person's favor, to the extent possible, the giver should be
attentively watching, lending encouragement to their champion. The
should behave with decorum (for example, shrieking out insults to the
person one's champion is fighting is not an admired behavior).
If a favor is given with the understanding that it is for a limited
the object should be surrendered at the end of that time. Asking to
it longer is acceptable, but unless you're Duke Merriwald (a noted
favor-collector), accumulating a double handfull of favor objects is
as being a tad too lighthearted about giver/recipient obligations.
Nothing however (beyond the specific understandings held with a
Significant Other) limit anyone to bearing or giving only one favor at
Three men currently hold my tokens: Don Fernando; Duke Vissevald (Don
Fernando's sword brother) and a gentle in the Middle Kingdom who I
is named Sean. (I met this last fellow mundanely - he recognized me
years past, and begged a favor from me in the middle of a business
conference, surrounded by mundanes. I obliged him, although obviously
could not watch him in the lists).
I hope this helps, and I hope I have tread on no toes, posting the
behavior standards of a time long ago, and far away.
-Ianthe d'Averoigne email@example.com.
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