Re: Good Gentles wanting to find

[Mark Schuldenfrei <schuldy@abel.MATH.HARVARD.EDU>]

Poster: Mark Schuldenfrei <schuldy@abel.MATH.HARVARD.EDU>

Greetings from Tibor.

Someone I don't know said:
  >     I would ask to be granted a boon.  I am searching for some dear friends,
  > formerly members of the Barony of the Far West,
  
And someone else I don't know said:
  XXXXXXXXX is presently senechal of the Shire of YYYYYYYY, [...]


Gentles, because my wife works (rarely) with families in dire circumstances,
may I point out a small security issue?  Sometimes people don't *wish* to be
found.

This was driven home to me when I tried to return phone calls to a merchant
for an event I was running.  The merchant had all calls meticulously screened
because of some violent history from a divorce.

Part of the beauty of our Society is that we want to help, and that we like to
presume all people are good.  In the Society, that is more true than I would
otherwise expect: but it still isn't always true.

Please consider answering such messages by saying "Please, give me your
contact information, and I will pass it to them", instead of simply providing
a trail to the sought-after gentles.  It may be the greater kindness.

Sorry to be providing such cautionary tales.

	Tibor
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