Re: Tote and carry at events

[AEdric the Grene <AEdric@mindspring.com>]

Poster: AEdric the Grene <AEdric@mindspring.com>

>Poster: Julia Windsor <lywindsor@yahoo.com>
>
>assistance. I've also been chewed out for helping to unload a rather
>large pavilion.

I am most sorry to hear this happened to you, Lady Windsor.  This sort of
behaviour, especially within the SCA, is inexcusable.  [And, it's one of
the reasons I'm so admantly against Courtly Love (see previous post).
Assuming that her help was refused for being female.]  A helping hand is a
helping hand.  Politely telling someone that the assistance is not needed
is one thing.  Chewing out someone (especially a Lady for those Courtly
Love believers) is ridiculous!

>With these mixed signals, it's no wonder most people haven't got a clue.

Or, that some of us get quite upset and angry at this uncivilised behaviour.

>If I or anyone else should offer to assist and you don't need or want
>help, BE POLITE about it. The person you rebuke may have a long memory.

This should be true in modern society as well.  A sad thing that it needs
to be said, but apparently it does.  Behaving as a lady/gentleman (why not
lady/lord or gentlewoman/gentleman?  Anyway...) is one of the
*requirements* for participants (Corpora, II.D.).  Be nice if more people
would keep that in mind.


AEdric the Grene
House Howling Mouse
(Who isn't as rabid as he seems,
but courteous/chivalrous behaviour
is a *button* with him)

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