Re: Courtly behavior

[Debbie Halstead <jebbydo@yahoo.com>]

Poster: Debbie Halstead <jebbydo@yahoo.com>

---Heather Swann  wrote:
>
> 
> Poster: Heather Swann <heather@pop.net>
> 
> >
> 
> This sort of thing has been common in this Kingdom for the last
several years
> by my observation.  If I've seen any ladies being helped, it has
mainly been
> the pretty young things, although there are still some lords who
help ladies in
> general.
> 
> Miri
>


I think, perhaps, that some of us may be partly at fault. I have
certainly received offers of help, but often out of a misguided
mundane sense of safety, will politely refuse if I am capable of
carrying my load with relative grace. (I can but rarely claim true
grace--just ask any of my dance partners!) If a gentleman hears, "No,
thank you, milord --I believe I can manage," enough, it may discourage
him from asking at all. In their defense, also, I must say that any
time I have asked for help, I have received it, contrary to the
suggestion of an earlier post on the subject.

Deborah of Isenfir
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