RE: Discussion: netiquette (was re: young people)

[Louise Sugar <dragonfyr@tycho.com>]

Kate, I thank you for your kind words...however several of the "gentles" of this list have flamed me privately via e-mail....words like jerk, a**hole and get a life were used.  I was told that the gentleman's reputation is spotless and his courtesy unquestioned and I had some nerve to attack him in this fashion.  My reputation was called into question and I have been not too subtlely informed that even the dimmest of dullards knows where and when he is neither wanted nor welcome.  I am unsubscribing to the list....I was unaware that Atlantia was this type of place. I have even been chastized from the throne, unfairly I feel, but chastized nonetheless. I *ASSUMED* that having been a member of the list for a while that it was appropriate for me to respond in a joking manner to what I assmed from the header to be an amusing subject. I assumed this from his comment that young women were used to recruit after the age of 18......tho my first thought was less than innocent.  I am sorry that my comments were the basis of an off-topic list mail and humbly aplogize to you and anyone else I may have offended.  If you so desire you may repost this with my permission, however I will not be here to see it.

Again, my thanks for your kind words.

Louise
aka Tamira Andemar
Lady Dragonfyr of Draconmere (formerly Hudson County, NJ)

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From: 	Kate Spears[SMTP:kspears@fdic.gov]
Sent: 	Tuesday, June 11, 1996 11:49 AM
To: 	lisa@technomancer.com
Cc: 	atlantia@atlantia.sca.org
Subject: 	re: Discussion: netiquette (was re: young people)

(paraphrasing melys' comments)  adults have no business publicly correcting 
public offensiveness....

On the contrary, my lady, I feel it is the duty of people to point out 
offensive behavior.  A community determines standards of acceptable behavior 
by the words and actions of the community _in public_.  Everyone is entitled 
to express their opinions.  But that includes the right of someone to tell 
someone else they found their words offensive.          

If his comments were made to her in private, only then should she have 
limited her comments to a private response.  I myself have made the mistake 
of responding publicly to what turned out to be a private e-mail.  The 
misunderstanding was genuine, but I still apologized to the gentleman.  (He 
gracefully forgave me for my error.) But since the lord's comments were 
public, she was justified in her public response.

"I'll say what I want (or do what I want) when and where I want regardless of 
other's opinions/feelings" is not the mark of a courteous, honorable person, 
and that mindset should not be tolerated by a community that prides itself on 
chivalry and respect.  I'm not talking Political Correctness here, just 
common courtesy.                                           

Lady Aislynn Fyrlocc
AFPOPA
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